When we talk about destiny then either we get a lot of confusion . And this confusion is due to that because either we have some knowledge in each/ many direction and when we analysis then the each and every field take better place than other or we can't have sufficient knowledge in desired direction . And due to this we don't find any final direction and we live always before start but not go in any direction . another fact that who get started and continues in a particular direction who achieve his/her goal . Some points which are as below or in next post that is a main way of accomplishing destiny.
Set your goal
1. Start working toward
your goals today. Ask
yourself, "What can I do today to
get one step ahead, however small, closer to achieving my goals?" Write it
down and start now. Taking the first step is arguably the most important step.
You'll establish some much-needed momentum. This will make quitting both
personally disappointing and strategically harder. In the words of Eleanor
Roosevelt, "Do one thing every day that scares you."
2. When you set goals, think about setting SMART
goals. SMART is an acronym and mnemonic that provides
a framework for thinking about goals. Educators
and coaches like to use this framework because it forces us to sit down and
reallydesign our goals intelligently so that they're
ultimately easier to accomplish. SMART stands for:
S – Specific (or Significant).
M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
T – Time-bound (or Trackable).
3. In keeping with SMART, make sure
your goal is specific and definable. A
definable goal might be something like "I'd like to lose 20 pounds in three months or "I'd like to win a Scrabble tournament." Specific, definable goals help you stay
on track and let you know they're feasible.
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An unspecific goal, like "I'd like to become a better human
being" is so vague as to be practically useless. You could become a "better
human being" by cleaning up
the dishes or by solving world peace. See what we mean?
Instead of thinking about really general goals, stay specific. After all, if
you set yourself a goal of volunteering
for Thanksgiving, there's a good chance you've become a better human being.
4.
Try to set a goal that is relevant or rewarding to you personally. Most
people set goals that are inherently relevant to their personal needs and
situations. People who are overlooked make goals to stand out. People who are
overweight make goals to get trim. But every once in a while, people make goals
that they aren't personally committed to, but which they think they should be.
(Becoming a lawyer just because your dad is one.) Try not to do this.
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One big regret people have at the end of their lives is not
living true to their own ideal, focusing rather on others' expectations. Live a life true to yourself by
setting goals that you actually care for.
5. Make sure your goal is time-bound. In
other words, set yourself a deadline for meeting the goal. If you set yourself
a deadline, your urgency increases monumentally. Without a deadline, you're
just kind of along for the ride, paddling downstream, maddeningly unaware of
where the finish line is.
6. Break down your goal into chunks or pieces. Setting
attainable but ambitious goals is a great thing. Lots of people want to lose weight, stop procrastinating,write a book, fall in love, travel the world, and play
guitar. But
all of these goals are pretty daunting taken alone. To make the accomplishment
of the goal much easier, try to break down the goal into more manageable chunks.
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Losing weight, for example, can be broken down into chunks lots
of different ways. You can have a weight loss goal that you set — say 15 pounds
— and just set incremental goals for yourself — losing 5 pounds three times.
You could even break down the different component parts of losing weight — eating healthy, exercising, and controlling cravings — and set a goal for each of those.
7. Ask for guidance. No one can tell you exactly what you should do
to achieve your goal, but one of the best sources for guidelines is to ask
those who have done what you hope to achieve. Learn from the experience of
others without trying to imitate them.
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A good source of help might be a mentor. A mentor is someone, usually
older and more experienced, who knows the ropes and gets excited about the idea
of helping someone else out. (That someone else is you.) Find established
professionals, friends of family, or even colleagues who might serve as
mentors, or who could point you to someone who might serve as a mentor.
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If you're trying to become
a jazz musician, for example, seek out a more established trumpet player and
ask to learn from him or her. If you're thinking about becoming mayor, seek out past mayoral
candidates — successful or otherwise — and try to learn from them. If you're
just trying to come to terms with an abusive childhood, a psychologist can help
you come to terms with some of your feelings.
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